You’re probably wondering what I mean by “your 2%”, so let me take just a moment to explain. First of all, this most certainly does not mean that you should open your fridge and hug the milk jug! I’m pretty confident that if you do, your family will look at you and say “Yep, they’ve officially lost it!” The point of this article is to prove that you haven’t surely lost it!
On a serious note, I don’t know about you, but I am definitely not okay 100% of the time. I am human and I struggle to “keep it all together”. I have pain, heartache, frustration and irrational emotions that sometimes get the best of me.
A few weeks ago, when things were really tough, I went over to my parent’s house so I could vent. I cried and cried– and cried some more. I remember feeling guilty for not having it all together.
I thought I had to be strong 100% of the time because I’m a Christian, right? Wrong!
The reality is, our Father wants us to strive to live our lives like Christ. There is a story in the Bible where it says that Jesus was angry, yet He didn’t sin. I recognize that we are human and we do sin, but if we set out to live like Jesus, then when we are angry (or in our moment of despair) we can realize that that emotion is okay if handled properly.
Okay, so getting back to my parent’s house. I told them that I am usually able to keep it all together but that moment just seemed like more than I could handle, and I was physically and emotionally drained. My dad assured me that even if I am able to keep it together 98% of the time, that it’s entirely okay to have my 2% of the time that I let the emotions out in their raw and vulnerable state. So there I sat, on their couch, crying until I had no more tears to cry!
So, since I am certain that you are undoubtedly human (and not alien- who may or may not have the ability to show emotion); therefore, experiencing moments of breakdown, I want to provide you four simple ways to embrace your 2%:
- Remember that it is, in fact, acceptable to feel this way. Just like me, you might deem it irrational to cry or be upset; however, I believe that this is a lie straight from the devil himself told that you would begin to doubt your worthiness of Christ’s love or that you are somehow less of a Christ follower. Our Heavenly Father created us as human with raw emotions. He also created us with the ability to choose. So even though it’s acceptable to experience that 2%, it is imperative that you make the conscious choice not to stay there!
- Press into the Father. Matthew 11:28 says “Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.” Our Father wants us to reach out to Him when we are in our darkest hour. He also promises to give us rest in that moment. This is a rest and a peace that is beyond all understanding and one that we won’t find no matter where we turn but to our Savior’s feet!
- Surround yourself by people who lift you up. Paul encourages us in Galatians 6:2 to “Share each others burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.” I guarantee that if you are surrounding yourself with negative, selfish, and ungodly people on a regular basis; you too will begin to think and act in that way. When you are in the midst of your 2%, it is essential that positive and life-giving people surround you who will be willing to carry your burden with you.
- Engage in something you enjoy to shift your focus. The exact details of this point will vary for each person based on age, abilities, hobbies etc. but the concept remains the same across the board. What makes you feel the most alive? Do you run, paint, read, knit, build things, or go for a drive? Whatever your answer, it is extremely important to participate in these things when you are in this state. For me, I love to listen to worship music and to write; but sometimes, I need to simply “Netflix and chill” to escape the present reality for at least the length of a single show. Regardless of what it is that you enjoy- just do it!
I don’t know what brings you to your 2%. Mine was health and finance related. Yours may look the same or entirely different. Let me assure you that our Heavenly Father is aware of your struggle and is reaching out to you with His loving hand. He is ready and willing to wrap His arms around you to carry and comfort you through this season. I encourage you to let Him. Reach up to your Father and let go of all your worry and concern.